When the good die young it tends to put life into perspective. Fighting with your spouse, yelling at the kids, not taking time for yourself, all for what? You love your spouse, you love your kids, and you most definitely should be loving yourself. So why spend so much energy on so much negative?
When The Good Die Young
I heard today that a rep I’ve worked with, Julie from Tractenberg & Co. PR, recently passed away (her family has set up a Go Fund Me page to help with expenses). She was 33 years old. Just 3 years younger than I. Not yet married (she was engaged), no children yet, nothing to tie her down, Julie was enjoying life. She got to travel, meet people, attend events and entertain some of the craziest bloggers, myself included. I met Julie a year or two ago when Mommy Mafia shared an invite to an Avon event happening in Miami. Julie extended the invite to me without hesitation.
The event was darling, Julie and her partner Rocio were super sweet. A few weeks later a box arrived filled with Avon goodies and I was officially dubbed an #AvonInsider. Julie sent me some “Luck” and I remember her each time I put it on. Time passed, emails exchanged, invites extended. The last invite, actually 2, were for events happening over the summer for more of her clients, John Freida, Jergens and Sol De Janeiro. I had to decline because I was going to be out-of-town attending BlogHer 2016 in NYC. And then another event this past February for John Freida again, Julie reserved a seat for me – but according to our emails I declined due to a prior engagement. I have no idea now what that other thing I was doing was, but I really hope it was worth not seeing Julie one last time. I hope I was spending time with my family, enjoying my loved ones or even just taking the night off for some “me” time.
I’ve learned a lot about self-care in the last couple of years, but I don’t practice it enough. Hearing about Julie’s death today put a lot of things into perspective. My children, my husband, my friends…what if they or I weren’t given tomorrow???!!! Would I be okay knowing I had given them my all…Would I be satisfied with myself and where I am in life???!!! What are the things I feel need to be done, to better myself, my family, my life, my world. When the good die young they don’t have the chance to redo what they missed out on. Make time for yourself and the people you care about.
I have children to raise, to watch grow, to see blossom…to marry off and to hold grand-babies. I want to be here to see it all, to live it all, to experience it all. It’s time to really put life into perspective, kiss the ones you love, hug the ones you’ve missed and say I Love You every chance you get, for tomorrow is not promised. If you’re gonna get caught up in the hustle of life, then hustle hard and make it worth every moment. I made a promise this year to myself to work smarter, not harder – finding this picture of Julie with HUSTLE HARD in the background just renewed my promise to myself. Thank you Julie for the reminder to make it all worth it.