Tired of getting nowhere with all the screaming and yelling? It starts with listening. Here's how to get your kids to listen without yelling.

How to Get Your Kids to Listen without Yelling

Anyone that has raised a child has had that moment when they felt frustrated, angry, or just at the end of their rope with something the child is doing. You start off nicely and quietly asking them to correct their behavior, stop what they are doing and change their direction. But when that doesn’t work your voice starts to rise and before you know it you are yelling at the top of your lungs – and chances are it’s not working very well either. It’s very tempting to yell to try to get them to listen to you but the act of yelling can actually be very counter-productive to the results you want. That’s why I am sharing some tips on how to get your kids to listen without yelling.

Tired of getting nowhere with all the screaming and yelling? It starts with listening. Here's how to get your kids to listen without yelling.

How to Get Your Kids to Listen without Yelling

What you may not realize is that when you raise your voice, your children will actually tune you out. It’s a natural response for many people, especially young people, when they hear someone yelling. You might yell because you’re frustrated or because you think you will get their attention better that way, when actually the opposite is true.

Here are some ways to get your kids to listen without yelling:

– Listen first. You should be the positive example. When your kids talk to you, give them your full attention and listen to them. This shows them how it should be done.

– Establish eye contact. Look them in the eye and get them to look you back in the eye. Then begin saying what you need to say.

– Set limits from the start. When you set limits, your children will know where their boundaries are. There should be clear consequences to crossing these boundaries. If everyone is on the same page from the start, there is no need for tears or yelling.

– Connect before you make a request. Always make sure you have your child’s attention and have properly connected before making a request. This ensures they truly hear you and can take in the request.

These are just a few tips to get you started. Open, quality communication with your children is always the first step. When you have a good relationship, they will listen to you more. What are some ways you get your kids to listen?

Mama E

Multitasking mama to 3 living in Miami. Blogging about parenting, lifestyle, cooking and traveling. Covering everything from diapers to dorm rooms. Ask me anything, I've done it all.

Comments (14)

  • These are some great tips for me to use with my grandchildren. I get so frustrated at times. Thank you so much for sharing

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  • These are great tips, thank you so much for sharing!

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  • Great tips, it is so easily to fall into that yelling trap. I have always tried to stop before and breathe before speaking. But setting limits is a great tip.

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  • Wonderful tips! I am a firm believer in making eye contact but I know that I need to work on really listening more often.

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  • I love these tips. Definitely will use them.

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  • Thank you for these tips. It seems the only way my children will listen is when they’ve driven me past the point of crazy!! Thank you!

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  • I used to raise my voice but now I always try to be calm. It makes life easier not yelling constantly at your children. I like the idea of looking them in the eye and having them look at you.

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  • This is some great advice, in going to pass it on to my daughter she has little guys.

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  • I love finding out new ideas. Cool!

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  • What a challenge this is and you are so right. I try to think carefully before I raise my voice, or even not raise it at all.

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  • Setting limits is the key!

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  • Wonderful tips to get kids to listen.

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  • Thanks for the tips! Children are not the same in this generation.

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  • I’m a grandma and i still find it hard to not holler, Your article had many good points and techiques

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